The Problem With Marriage
I have a friend he got married a year ago. I went to his bachelor party in Amsterdam. I gave the best man speech at his wedding. And now a year later, she’s moved out. They don’t get along. They both hate each other. They’re getting a divorce.
It’s not a surprise. I saw it coming. Everyone saw it coming. They didn’t see it coming.
They fought all the time. Went to couples therapy for a year before they were married. They swore things were going to be different. The marriage was going to save their relationship. It didn’t. It got worse. Because marriage isn’t a solution to a problem.
But that’s the problem with relationships. You can’t see what’s obvious to other people. You don’t want to listen to what other people have to say. You justify your relationship by proclaiming that no one else can know how you feel, why you love, or what you need. So you believe the lies you tell yourself, find solutions that don’t make sense, and you continue on because in your mind there is no eject button.
Which is why I feel bad for my friend. I know he tried to make it work. I know he’s in pain. I know he’s lost.
But I am here for him, always.
